Are you OKAY with being YOURSELF?

It is time for girl talk and the topic is: Are you okay with being you? I am reading a book about how to live a kick ass life and it got me thinking. One thing in particular is how people view or question me about how  i choose to wear my hair.I grew up with a mother who was a nurse and cosmetologist, she has always been very versatile with her hair. She would have short hair one minute and long hair the next, it may be black today and blonde tomorrow. She always expressed to me that hair was an accessory and that it is ok to change it as much as you like.Currently I cut off my hair and I am rocking the cutest short cut. Yes, I am still natural, you don't have to perm your hair just because you cut it short. This photo is of a style I got a few weeks ago.

 This weekend I got some length cut off because it was to long and very hard to maintain. Being short is nothing new to me, when I went off to college many years ago I cut all of my hair off and wore it short for roughly 4 years. I went natural and grew my hair out and recently cut it because I wanted something new and fresh. I got criticized for cutting my hair because I had been growing it out and people could not understand why I would want to cut it off. Honestly, I have missed my hair short I just didn't cut it because of the fear of cutting it and missing it. To tell you the truth I MISS MY LONG HAIR!!! I look at the pic below and think I want my long hair back.

In reality I don't miss my natural hair being long I just miss wearing a good weave. And you know what I realized about myself.... stop living or giving a shit what anyone thinks about how you should look or how I should wear my hair. The great thing about cutting my hair is when I feel like wearing it short I can and when I feel like wearing it long I can. I have the best of both worlds and I refuse to apologize for it. Yes, I will be getting a weave this winter and yes I will be wearing it short because I have the ability to do so and I look great either way. I learned that I am a person who gets bored easily and I need the ability to be versatile and have different looks. I have always been that way and I always will be!

Confidence- is about believing in yourself 

Self esteem- is about believing in your worth

Ladies, it is time that we start having a positive self esteem and confidence towards ourselves. It is time to be comfortable in the skin you are in and accept the things that make you, you! I know it can sometimes be easier said than done. We are forever evolving, constantly working on being a better person and loving who you are wholeheartedly. I am learning to be ok with Me. It is actually liberating to be exactly who you want and loving it. Don't let society, family or friends depict who you are or what makes you, you. 

Be the best you, you know how to be and then some. I plan on being madly in love with myself, only I know how to love me exactly how I need to be loved.It is time to look to myself for that love and not expect to receive it from anyone else. 

So are you ok with being yourself? Do you struggle with doing what you love because of what others say? 

Lets chat leave your comments in the comment section below!

Until next time folks,

Yes I'm Almost 30.....And?

It has been a while since my last post but I am back and ready for some girl talk. I want this blog to be a place where women can come read good material and have the chance to interact with others. I want this blog to be interactive I want you to feel comfortable enough to comment and lets chat about whats going on in life. It's all about girl talk....men you are more than welcome to chime in. I will be posting every Sunday and I look forward to having great conversations with you all!

Today's topic is all about Yes people I am closing in on thirty...and I am freaking out just a little.lol  OMG I look at myself in the mirror and realize Courtney where in the hell did the time go? You are almost 30 freaking years old! I look around and think geeesh time really waits for no man, my cousins whom I witnessed being born are grown and or in high school, everyone around me is either getting married or having children and I get asked the same few questions every time I go to church or see people I haven't seen in a while. Not to mention it is time for my 10 year high school class reunion...STFU! As for these three haunting questions that I am sure all of the women my age get asked (1) Are you married? (2) Do you have children? (3) What are you waiting for? Ladies, I'm sure you are rolling your eyes as you read this thinking ugh i get those questions all the time. My question to you is...How do you answer them? Here are my responses:

(1) Are you married? Me- No, Why not do you have a boyfriend? Me- Yes, What is wrong with your boyfriend? Me- Hell i don't know I'm wondering the same thing as you. You probably could get a better answer if you ask him!

(2) Do you have any children? Me- No fortunately I don't. I am not mentally or physically ready to me someones mother right now! 

(3)What are you waiting for? Me- waiting on Mr. Right to come sweep me off my feet and give the life of my dreams like they say in the fairy tales. 

Listen, I am not trying to be a jerk with the answers that I gave but people act as if we are not already thinking about the monumental milestones that are suppose to be happening in our lives and that are happening in the lives of ones around us. We don't need constant reminders that we are complete failures for not being married or have children by now. lol just kidding about be failures of course.

Personally I am in a serious committed relationship and I could definitely see marriage in the future. If he doesn't realize that he has an amazing woman in his life that he wants to commit his life to then it is his loss not mine. We should not be the ones hounded because were not married, how about hound these men and ask whats wrong with them and why they haven't done the honorable things expected of them. I am old school I will be someones wife and the mother of their children and in that order.

Yes I am knocking on thirty's door but trust me I am focused and doing exactly what I should be doing: I am working on myself as a woman and being comfortable in the skin I'm in. I'm out here trying to live my dreams, be successful, buy some bad ass shoes, wear super chic clothes and get some damn abs!!!

Ladies don't let others expectations for your life get you discouraged that you are not on the right path. I refuse to allow traditional expectations mold my lifestyle. When the right man is smart enough the time will happen and he will be one lucky son of a .....! Until then I'm content with pursuing the American Dream!

Don't mind me just being SOOOOOOO UN-BOTHERED!!! LOL

Ladies are you feeling the heat? Have you started getting these questions everywhere you go?  How do you respond? Or how did you respond before these things happened to you?

Lets chat! Leave comments in the comment section below.